4 Ways to Tell Your Cat “I Love You!”


Team Cat Mojo– it’s in the air. Love is in the air. It’s Valentine’s Day. That’s right. It is a perfect time to learn
about the cat I love you. Are you guys ready
to get catified? Oh yeah. Let’s go. [MUSIC PLAYING] All right, y’all. It is time to learn
about the cat I love you. What is the cat I love you, you
ask yourself, or you ask me. If you’ve watched “My Cat
from Hell,” even that all, you’ve probably seen me
walking around talking to cats by blinking at
them, the slow blink, right. Believe me, I know a
whole lot of people know about this now because
you walk up to me in the street and you blink at me. Which is weird,
but totally cool. Because the concept
is everyone’s getting to know the
language of cats. Way back in the
’90s, early ’90s, I was learning how
to be a cat boy. I was working at
an animal shelter. And I learned that
cats liked me. I was so obsessed
with these guys and obsessed with learning
about their world. So I started reading. And one of the books that jumped
out at me in the beginning, made me feel like, hey, there
might be a community of people who think like me,
or who are obsessed the way I am, and this woman
right here led the way. Her name is Anitra Frazier. This is actually
my copy of the book that I got back the early ’90s. Go figure. In this book I was reading
about the cat I love you. And basically she was talking
about how she learned this by walking down the streets in
the Upper West Side of New York and just looking in the
windows of the brownstones and seeing cats in
there and noticing that they were blinking. What is that, she wondered. So she would blink back at them. And suddenly there
was a language between Anitra and these cats. And that became
the cat I love you. They’re letting you know that
they are vulnerable to you. These are prey
animals, animals that sleep with one eye open,
almost literally, cat napping. Because they don’t want to
be preyed upon in the wild. So the concept of closing their
eyes to you in a slow way– not something that they would
do very willingly unless they’re trying to tell you something. In the spirit of
Valentine’s Day now I’m going to teach you how
to do the cat I love you. If you stare at people they
tend not to trust you very much, you know? So if you’re doing– we’re
going to lose our glasses now. When you do this, stare. Now I’m even– let’s remove
my facial expressions. Not very inviting. So the secret is to
relax, relax your face. So do this with me–
a little scrunch up, a little Gilbert Gottfried here. And then release it. Now you got it. Now we’re softening our eyes. This is the way that we want to
approach a cat, with soft eyes. We’re not staring at them. So let’s take it
to the next step. When you look you soften, and
then behind your vocal box– don’t use your words,
just think them. I’m not speaking right now. I’m thinking. You’re hearing my
inside voice right now. I love you. One more time. Take your time with that. That’s kind of key. When your cat does
that to you, remember– they are showing
vulnerability, in which case we’re not just going
I love you– oh, what? I love you– oh,
are you still there? You know what I’m saying? That shows lack of trust. Trust is really closing
your eyes to the world. Practice that with your cat. What about the cat I
love you how ya doin’? When you walk into a room
and your cat sees you, tell me your cat doesn’t do
yeah, yeah, how ya doin’? I just did it. So let’s incorporate the cat
I love you with the how ya doin’, which is the cat I love
you how ya doin’, originally enough. So you go– Try it! I’m telling you, you
feel stupid doing it. But try it, all right? Now let’s try the bow. And the bow is you’re literally
just bowing to your cat. But you don’t necessarily
have to go all the way down. And in the same way, you don’t
have to do the all the way blink. The I love you bow is like this. It’s almost as if in the back of
your head you’re saying, yeah, I love you. Yeah. Let me teach you about
the 3-step handshake. The 3-step handshake
is using the cat I love you in succession
with some other things. People are always wondering
why they can’t pet a cat. Because you didn’t
ask permission. That’s why. This is how you ask permission,
the three-step handshake. First we’re going
to try the blink. Yeah, throw in a how ya
doin’, throw in the bow, OK. Next thing you do is you present
something with your scent on it for them to explore. Often I will use these bad boys. Step three finally
of the handshake, the real how ya doin’, is
offering your hand to your cat. Now the thing that
I will always do is extend my hand in
a very relaxed way. I’ll treat this
finger like a nose, because cats often
will nose to nose. There’s my nose. I’ll present to them. And often what they
will do once they trust you is allow
them to pet you. They will then push their
nose up, towards the third eye here, and down. These are universal
signs that your cat has fed you over and over again. And if you just use them up a
little bit, don’t feel silly. I mean literally, we’re behind
closed doors here, just you and me in the cat cave. Try it. And try it with your cat. Of course that’s homework. Go and try the cat I
love you with your cat. A true expression of your
love for a cat is saying, I will communicate
on your terms. The cat I love you,
the 3-step handshake, the how ya doin’, the
bow, the finger nose– all those things are going
to their side of the fence. And let me know about it. Write some comments
right down here. Subscribe to this
channel, by the way. Write to me on Facebook
and Twitter and Instagram. Show me some videos, man. Show me some videos,
and pictures, of you doing the cat I love
you, or your cat doing it back to you, or doing the how ya
doin’ or the finger nose. I would love to see
all those things. I mean, honestly, if you want
to do a great Valentine’s Day thing for the Cat
Daddy, show me some of that stuff with
you and your cats. Videos man, I love that stuff. Some pictures on Instagram–
I love that stuff. Please bring it on. I want to tell you
one more thing. I want you to look
at this right here. Cats are cool. People we all knew that, right? Go to catsrcool.org
and you can find out some more about this
very interesting program. Speaking of Cats R
Cool, Cats R Cool sponsors me and my tour,
the Cats Uncaged tour. And it’s coming to
some places near you, not so far off in the future. If you want to find out more
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on the Animalist Network, and on YouTube. And you will find
out when I will be traveling with Cats
Uncaged at a shelter near you, in a town near you, under
the Cats R Cool banner. So folks, happy
Valentine’s Day to you. Go and spread that love. Go blink a little bit. Go do the how ya doin’. Let me see it from
you and your cat. In the meantime, I have
no way of expressing how big my heart is
for team Cat Mojo. You people have been
coming out in force, letting me know how you
feel about Cat Mojo. And I’m pretty psyched about it. Until next time, all
light, all love, all mojo. [KISSES] Love you. [MUSIC PLAYING]

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