How To Listen To Your Inner Voice | Emily Fletcher


So I’m with Emily Fletcher here whom I
mentioned several times in the book ‘The Code of the Extraordinary Mind’. Emily is a friend. She’s one of the
world’s greatest meditation teachers. At least, I consider you so. And Emily
teaches at her own school which is called Ziva in New York City, and
Ziva Meditation is her website. So I’ve learned so much about Emily and what I
really like about Emily is how she demystifies meditation. She de-
mystifies so much of this stuff that many people consider woo woo, and as a result she speaks at Google, she speaks at Harvard and today though, Emily, we’re not
going to talk about meditation, which I know is your is the main thing you
teach. I want to talk about a different idea I learned from you and that was the
idea that we occasionally get a calling and you refer to it as nature. Some people call it your higher self or
the Universe. Emily uses the word nature and in the
book I share a story that Emily shared with me about how when nature comes
calling, you’ve got to listen. So Emily, we want to
explore this topic a little bit more and one of the things I want you to tell us
is, we want to hear your story of how you listened, right, because you pulled off
something really remarkable. You went from being a Broadway actress to
starting a really phenomenally successful business in a relatively
short amount of time with no business training whatsoever. How did that happen? Well, I think a lot
of it was timing. I sort of hit meditation right before it became super
cool and as you know meditation is the most amazing tool there is and now
there’s so much neuroscience, you know, backing it up that I think you can’t, you
don’t have to do it but you can’t write it off as nonsense anymore, so that
really helped. But a lot of it was really, like you said, listening to nature, what I
would call following charm, which is basically listening to that still, small
voice inside. And you know, I was an actress for a really long time and I was in Los Angeles and my
boyfriend at the time, he and I broke up. And then a month later he called and said:
“What I meant to say was will you move in with me?” And I just thought about it and I said
“yes”. And I left my whole life in LA and I moved back to New York and it was the first
time I’d ever put my personal life before my professional life. And then my
career blew up. I mean, it blew up in a good way. Okay, so it was a really good lesson in
putting, you know your desires and your personal life before you’re
quote-unquote like goals. So, I know that might not sound like specifically
look like what you’re talking about but it was what I wanted to do. So I
actually think that nature communicates to us through our desires. Now, now the trick there is that if
you’re still living a life where you’re addicted to stuff, right, where you think
that the coffee is going to give you energy, or the alcohol is going to make
you happy, or that the money is gonna make you happy, then you’re still living
a life of ‘all my happiness lies out here’ and you’re dependent on that stuff. Once
you start a meditation practice you, start to be more self-referral for your
happiness vs object-referral for your happiness, and once you’re in that space
then it’s much easier to hear those downloads and to hear when nature comes
a-knocking. So, the way I like to illustrate this is,
let’s anthropomorphize nature, right. Let’s say that nature is the CEO of a
company and let’s say it has 10 employees and five of them come to
work, they’re late, they’re tired, they’re hungover. They’re not completing the tasks and the
other five employees, they show up 10 minutes before work starts. They’ve completed other tasks from the
previous day. They have all these creative ideas and suggestions about the
new project. Who do you think you’re going to give the raise to? Who do you
think you’re going to give the promotion to? Who are you going to give your next idea
and your next project to? And so if we think about nature as the CEO and we’re
all the employees, nature’s looking for people who are awake and on time and
taking action and executing to give the new ideas to. So the example that I use is
that, you know, that nature is just looking for people who are awake and who
are willing to take action and it just has ideas and projects that it
wants birth. And so, I used to date this pop star back in the
day and he used to wake up in the middle of the night and go. And then he would
wake up and he would start writing something down. I’d be like, “What are you doing? Come back to
bed.” and he’d be like, “No I gotta write it down, otherwise I’m gonna hear this song
on the radio in two months.” So that was my first sort of window
into this but then I saw this documentary about Michael Jackson. It was
‘This Is It’ and they were interviewing his manager and he said that Michael
Jackson used to call him all the time at three, four, five in the morning and he’d be like, “Michael, what is? It is in the middle of the night?” And Michael’d be like “Get up, I
need you to write something down” and he’d be like, “What is it?” Michael would say “Fireflies, we
need fireflies on the stage show.” And he was like “Michael, come on, this can wait till
tomorrow can’t it?” He’d be like, “No, write it down”. And he’d be like, Michael, let’s just do it tomorrow.
He’d be like, “No, because if we don’t do it, Prince will”. This just cracked me up
because I was like wait, the only guy innovating as fast as Michael Jackson was Prince,
right and so that was the guy nipping at his heels. He was getting
these downloads and he knew that if he didn’t take action, if he didn’t bring it
into the manifest, that nature would just look for the next person who was awake
and ready to execute. I love that story and I remember, after we had this
conversation because I get so many business ideas but I often put them to
the side because I have a business to run, but I started approaching these ideas
differently. The next I idea I got, I immediately started acting at it and not
going full-steam but acting on it, sharing it with people, building mockups
to see what people thought. And as I did that, the idea just started developing
further and further and further and now we’re launching this beautiful new
technology which I’m so excited about in the next six months. But I love what
you say and I think it’s so important to listen to those gut feelings that come
to you. You are the chosen one. Yeah, you are the chosen one and if you
choose not to take action, nature will choose someone else. So thank
you, Emily. Any final words for the people watching? Yes, just that when you hear that still,
small voice of intuition whispering, listen and then take action, because the
faster you take action the more inspiration you’re going to get.
It becomes a beautiful upward spiral. That’s, I want to add something to that. I
remember reading the book ‘Think and Grow Rich’ by Napoleon Hill, right and Napoleon
Hill talks about the idea of baby steps, right, baby steps. They’re so important. I remember hearing this joke. I can’t
remember where I heard it but the joke goes like this. There was a guy who
really wanted to win the lottery, so he would meditate every day visualizing
himself winning the lottery. Then he started praying to God every day, praying
to win the lottery, and then a month passes and a year passes and diligently
five times, ten times a day he would meditate, visualize, pray to God about
winning the lottery. And then 50 years passed and he’s continuing to do this,
and one day he’s crossing a street and boom, he gets hit by a bus. So he ends up
in heaven. He meets God and he asks God: “What’s the deal?” “I did this every single day 10
times, I asked you to help me win the lottery”. And God said “You could have at
least bought a ticket”. So, the idea is that, take a baby step and
in Napoleon Hill’s book ‘Think and Grow Rich’, he talks about baby steps and he
says the baby steps show intention, you don’t have to know if you’re taking the
right baby step, just take a step. If you are thinking about starting a company but
you don’t have the right idea, well, go and register a company name.
That’s what I did when I registered Mindvalley. That’s a baby step, but here’s what
happens. As you take these baby steps, the next bit of information comes and
then the next bit. And so, if this is the goal, your baby step may be off mark, but
you start auto-correcting and soon you hit the goal. So most people are waiting
for that straight answer to come. It doesn’t come that way. You gotta go with
what you get, you autocorrect and boom, you hit the goal. And the baby steps are
really, really, really important. You got to act on that inspiration. Yeah, that’s so beautiful and it reminds me of
something else. I always tell people that, you know, when you get an inspiration, people
then worry about well, ‘when’ is it going to happen and ‘how’ should I do it?
But the when and the how are not our job. It’s the what and the why. ‘What’ do I want? And ‘why’ do I want it? And if you can get
clear on that and then you take those baby steps, the ‘when’ and ‘how’ take care of themselves.
We’re all trying to control that, to control the outcome or control the timing when
really it’s just, you get the download, you take the action and you autocorrect
along the way. And then whatever is meant to show up,
will show up. And that is what we mean by living from inspiration. So, thank you
for joining us for this quick little interview with Emily Fletcher. Bye friends.

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